Grounded in Uncertainty
Most people don’t sabotage relationships because they don’t care.They sabotage them because their nervous system is running old strategies that once kept them safe.
You know the pattern.
You do the work.
You read the books.
You learn the tools.
You tell yourself you’ll be different this time.
And yet the same triggers show up.
The same arguments.The same internal pressure.
The same feeling of losing yourself, performing, defending, or shutting down.
That’s not because you’re broken. And it’s not because you need another tactic.
It’s because awareness alone doesn’t rewire identity-level patterns.
Grounded in Uncertainty is an 8-week group online programme designed to help you rewire the triggers and strategies that unconsciously sabotage connection. Not by controlling behaviour, but by changing what happens inside you when uncertainty shows up.
This isn’t:
no contact to “get them back”
scripts or lines to say
manipulation, game theory, or performance
pretending you’re healed when you’re not
Blaming others for your reaction
Needing someone else to change first
This work happens at the identity and nervous system level.
This PDF download contains the two chapters of the programme.
The mothod is the frameworks, and values are a big key to how we put this all together. What remains is understanding how we got to these in the first place. However these two chapters will give you change immediatly if you put them into pratice. That's a promise
They lay the foundation:
how triggers actually form
why awareness alone isn’t enough
how your nervous system decides which values are allowed to come online
why uncertainty feels unsafe even when nothing is actually wrong
and why you keep repeating strategies that don’t work, even when you know better
This is about learning how to stay grounded inside uncertainty, not controlling outcomes, not forcing connection, and not abandoning yourself to feel safe.
Over the full 8 weeks, we:
Map your trigger patterns and internal representations
Identify the beliefs and values driving your reactions
Rewire strategies that once kept you safe but now cost you connection
Build tolerance for emotional variation
Understand where emotions come from
Find the real you and decide which character you want to model
and integrate new responses that feel authentic, calm, and sustainable
This is not quick change.
It’s real change.
The kind that allows you to:
listen without defending
hold boundaries without aggression
stay present without shutting down
and be yourself without fear of losing connection
If you’re tired of performing, apologising, or feeling like you’re walking on eggshells, this work is for you.
And if you’re not ready to change at the identity level, this programme won’t be a fit.
But if you’re willing to stop forcing outcomes, stop fighting yourself, and start building safety inside you, then this is where the work begins.
This PDF is the doorway.
The full programme is the transformation.