Grounded in Uncertainty
Remove Reactive Behaviours built from past relationships that unconsciously sabotage new ones
Second Relationships Don't Fail because of lack of trying, they fail because of unconscious actions, the same strategies that caused the first one to fail. The same strategies to prevent the red flags from the past happening all over again, reacting to future Ghosts while shutting down connection, safety and trust. Resulting in Feeling Anxious, Abandoned and lost all over again.
Grounded in Uncertainty is an eight-week programme designed to rewire the sabotaging behaviours and beliefs formed in past relationships.
Finally a transformational programme that doesn't take months of talk therapy that doesnt change anything.
Awareness is only the starting point for changing the strategies that sabotage new relationships and for programming new behaviours that create connection. This work doesn’t just change how we show up on the outside. Over time, it transforms us from the inside out, as the nervous system learns that it is safe to be ourselves again, and new strategies bring the results we truly desire.
Welcome back to yourself.
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The Transformation
✅ No more reacting in ways you already know damage relationships or credibility
✅ No more emotional outbursts that create repair work later
✅ No more avoiding difficult conversations, decisions, or challenges
✅ No more freezing, procrastinating, or self-sabotaging when stakes increase
✅ No more becoming anxious, withdrawn, or controlling when a partner’s emotions shift
✅ No more losing composure as intimacy, responsibility, or expectation increases
✅ No more relying on explanations, apologies, or reassurance to repair trust
✅ No more second-guessing yourself under pressure or external judgement
✅ No more repeating behaviours you promised yourself or others you wouldn’t repeat
❌ We don't consistently validate your pain – Consistent victim mentality keeps you stuck.
❌ No months processing childhood attachment styles – This keeps you in a state of blaming others for your outcomes and takes away your ability to recognise that you are the only one responsible for your growth now.
❌ No excuses for not taking action – Even small actions on intentions create real change. No more excuses.
❌ No more continual self awareness – If you have read all the books, done all the programmes and still are the same, you know that awareness alone doesn't create change. Implement action on your intention to bring real change.
Change happens with intended action, not constant analysis.
post-programme outcomes
After completing Grounded in Uncertainty, you will be able to:
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Stay engaged during emotional uncertainty without becoming anxious or avoidant
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Handle a partner’s emotional shifts without assuming danger, rejection, or loss
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Interrupt old survival strategies before they damage trust or connection
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Respond to conflict without over-explaining, shutting down, or escalating
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Maintain behavioural stability even when closeness or vulnerability increases
No fluff.
No therapy language.
Who is this programme for?
Non Certification
✅ Post Separation Individuals
✅ Fathers
✅ Mothers
✅ Partners to post Family court Individuals
✅ For those who want to get control of emotional outbursts
✅ Those who want their second marriage to last
Grounded in Uncertainty Method GUM™ Certification
✅ Coaches
✅ Counsellors
✅ Psychologists
✅ Mediation Specialists
✅ Family Law Solicitors
Questions You May Be Asking Before You Start
“I don’t have the time.” This programme runs over eight weeks by design. Not to overwhelm you, but to allow integration. The work is not about adding more to your schedule. It’s about removing behaviours that already drain your time, energy, and focus. Most participants find they regain time because they are no longer: reacting repairing overthinking managing emotional fallout
“I’m not even sure what my triggers are.” You’re not expected to know them. This programme does not rely on insight or self-diagnosis. It guides you through a process that reveals your triggers through behaviour, not guesswork. You don’t need to analyse yourself. You need to observe what already happens under pressure. That’s where the real data is.
“I’ve already done therapy / coaching / personal development.” That’s common. This programme does not compete with insight-based work. It starts where most insight-based work stops. Understanding why you react is not the same as being able to not react. This work focuses on behaviour under pressure, not explanation after the fact.
“I’m worried I won’t be able to stay consistent.” Consistency is not demanded. Structure is provided. The programme is built so that missed weeks don’t break the process. Each stage connects, but nothing collapses if life intervenes. This is not about perfection. It’s about trajectory.
“I’m afraid of what I might uncover.” That fear makes sense. But this programme is not about reliving the past or digging for trauma. It is about current patterns and what they cost you now. Nothing is forced. Nothing is rushed. Everything is grounded in present-day behaviour.
“I don’t want to sit in my emotions or be told how to feel.” You won’t. This is not emotional processing or catharsis work. Emotions are treated as data, not destinations. The goal is not to feel more. The goal is to behave differently when feelings arise.
“I’m not sure I’m ready.” Readiness usually comes after structure, not before it. If you’re already aware that certain behaviours are costing you relationships, credibility, or momentum, you’re not early. You’re at the exact point this work is designed for.
“What if I start and don’t finish?” Starting already creates movement. But more importantly, this programme is built so that even partial completion creates behavioural change, because the work targets the moments that matter most. There is no “falling behind”. Only continued exposure to a different way of responding.
A final thing to consider Most hesitation is not logical. It’s protective. And protection is exactly what this programme is designed to update.
Integrating NLP Is Not Pseudo-Science, It Creates Real Identity-Level Change
“The definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results.”
Albert Einstein
You know that feeling at the end of a relationship, when you feel like you just can’t find the right person. Still seeing the same red flags. Still having the same arguments. Still firing up over the same triggers. And you’re left wondering, why do I keep getting this wrong?
NLP works to surface the patterns, values, and beliefs that have been driving our actions for a lifetime.
When your internal state is unstable, your relationships suffer.
Your Life Suffers.
Grounded in Uncertainty helps you stabilise.
Madness comes from, not in attempting to change our external environment, but constantly believing that the change is out there.
You can learn new tactics, new methods, how to get the girl, how to get the guy. But all of that is tricks and tactics, clinging to performance, and at an internal level, manipulation and losing yourself.
And the results? Still the same.
You keep running the same strategies when you’re triggered. Why? Because your nervous system believes they work. They worked to keep you safe in the past, so why wouldn’t it use them again?
Trying harder, performing more, only builds more exhaustion, more frustration, and more disconnection.
Your brain is a prediction machine, hallucinating what it perceives the future will bring, making meaning from how your nervous system responds to the external stimuli, then out come the same strategies that bring the same results.
We teach you to interrupt your old strategies and replace with new ones that bring a real measurable change, in Life, relationships and wealth.
There is a window, an opportunity for intention
“Between stimulus and response there is a space. In that space is our power to choose our response.”
Viktor Frankl
There is a feeling, a deep knowing, that you have a choice. But when we feel that overwhelming pressure to act one way or another, we often give into the impulse, acting on the prediction that it will be the same. That unless we react the same way we always have, we won’t be safe.
Why?
Because your nervous system is screaming to your mind that this is the right move. That this will keep you safe. That this will meet your needs. It is linking cause and effect the same way it has every other time.
I can’t sit in the silence, it means they will leave!
I don’t like that they are getting so close, love means danger!
Last time this happened I was hurt!
When I was told this before it meant pain!
Cling.
Run.
Argue.
What we experience as reality is heavily shaped by past predictions, not objective input.
“Perception is controlled hallucination.”
Andy Clark
Lisa Feldman Barrett’s research shows that the brain uses past experiences to construct the present moment, often recreating the same emotional reality. We stay stuck in a loop of prediction, doing what the brain does best: learning from the past and projecting it into the future.
In simple terms, A must equal B.
And this is where we get stuck.
We start believing that variation is not possible. That a word, a statement, a tone of voice, or a facial expression must always mean the same thing.
It sucks to be on repeat, doesn’t it?
This isn’t woo woo.
It’s you, on autopilot, trying to keep you safe.
But let me ask you this!
How does it feel being stuck?
How does it feel to learn new tactics or new relationship methods, yet still feel the same way internally?
Until we start actioning new strategies we will keep repeating the same outcomes!
Awareness is only the start. Action builds change
The Biggest Change comes in the relationships we fear losing
“Relationships are the agents of change, and the most powerful therapy is human love.”
Bruce D. Perry
Our triggers don't come out when we don't care, they come out when we start to have real feelings, when the internal state changes and the body remembers. It's what lights us up to take on the world and is what can have us running for the hills. We can defend, thinking we need to prove we are loveable while pushing away the very connection we desire. We can feel like opinions are judgments, like another's feelings mean that something must be wrong with the relationship.
Thoughts of.
I have to fix this!
Does her drop in affection mean I did something?
Does his silence mean he doesn't care?
I feel the drop in energy, is something wrong with the relationship?
Last time I went away on holiday they cheated on me!
Next rounds starts 2026
“The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.”
Carl Rogers
This programme is not a manipulation tactic. I despise manipulation.
It is not “go no contact so you can get them back.”
It is not “treat them mean, keep them keen.”
It is not about saying the right line or using a tactic to pull someone back in.
This work is about honouring your values and honouring the other person. It is about the connection, the authenticity of yourself, and the authenticity of them. It is about autonomy. For both of you to be yourselves.
Connection does not grow through manipulation. And tactics only create internal resistance.
This work happens at the identity level. The NLP structures we use create internal change at a subconscious level. It builds the ability to tolerate emotional variation. To sit in the middle of a storm and remain grounded. To reframe what once felt like judgment into an expression of another person’s emotional experience.
It is the ability to actually listen to what someone is saying.
This is not a quick “use this line to repair it.” This is real attraction. Real connection.
I had to learn the triggers that sabotaged so many of my relationships and left me wondering why. They left me apologising because I couldn’t stop long enough to acknowledge another person’s emotions. My past wounds and trauma carried forward until I changed at the identity level. Until I started seeing the world the way I chose to see it, not through my past.
The greatest place we grow is within the relationships we choose to grow in.
No more searching for red flags.
Choose the person.
And choose to honour yourself as well as them.
You Know That Feeling, When the Heart Sinks, When you Don't Feel heard.
The body doesn’t store past pain as stories, it stores patterns of reaction. When a familiar sensation appears, the brain assumes danger and pulls meaning from the past. We then react not to what’s happening now, but to a future hallucination of past pain repeating itself through the body.
Grounded In Uncertainty Curriculum
What you will learn in the course. A map of the terrain you will be travelling on this 2 month journey once a week during your online group sessions. It's more than just lessons, it is discovering you self. Experience awakening to who you are at the identity level.
The Grounded in Uncertainty Structure Tolerance for Uncertainty · Tolerance for Variation · Curiosity This foundational lesson introduces the core framework that underpins the entire course. You will learn why emotional instability, reactivity, and self-sabotage are not character flaws, but failures of tolerance. When uncertainty or emotional variation exceeds your nervous system’s capacity, the system defaults to protection-based strategies. This module builds the ability to remain grounded when outcomes are unknown, emotions fluctuate, and certainty is unavailable, allowing curiosity to replace control and collapse.
Internal Representations How Your Mind Encodes Reality This lesson explores how the nervous system and subconscious mind represent experiences internally through images, sounds, sensations, and meanings. Using NLP principles, you will learn how these internal representations shape emotional responses and behaviour far more than external events themselves. By understanding how your mind codes threat, safety, rejection, or approval, you gain leverage over automatic reactions that previously felt uncontrollable.
What Is “Poor Behaviour? Behaviour as a Nervous System Strategy Rather than labelling behaviour as good or bad, this lesson reframes behaviour as an attempt to regulate internal states. What we often call “poor behaviour” is usually a strategy that once protected connection, safety, or certainty. This module dismantles shame-based thinking and replaces it with functional understanding.
Emotional Accountability Responsibility Without Self-Blame Emotional accountability is the ability to take responsibility for your internal state without making others responsible for regulating it, and without shaming yourself for having emotions. This lesson teaches the difference between emotional ownership and emotional suppression.
Attachment Styles Attachment as a Regulation Strategy This lesson reframes attachment styles not as fixed identities, but as adaptive nervous system strategies formed in response to relational environments. You will learn how anxious, avoidant, and disorganised patterns emerge under threat to connection, and how they influence communication, attraction, conflict, and withdrawal. The focus is not on labelling yourself, but on expanding capacity so attachment behaviours are no longer driven by fear. The purpose is to understand the patterns and strategies rather than become stuck in a diagnosis.
Reframing Past History Updating the Nervous System’s Predictions In this lesson we learn how to use NLP techniques to re-wire our memory of our past so that it has less of a negative effect on our internal state, Loosening it's meaning to current triggers.
Values What Comes Online When the System Feels Safe This module explores how values are not static traits, but state-dependent priorities. When the nervous system is regulated, values related to growth, honesty, connection, leadership, and courage come online. When threatened, protective values dominate. You will learn to identify your true values versus survival-driven substitutes, and how regulation restores access to the values you want to live by.
Dirty Parts Parts Integration Instead of Internal War This lesson works with the parts of yourself you may judge, suppress, or try to eliminate. Using parts integration, you will learn that so-called “dirty” or unwanted parts exist to protect something meaningful. By integrating rather than fighting these parts, internal conflict dissolves, energy returns, and behaviour becomes coherent rather than fragmented.
Choose Your Character Identity-Level Change Through Modelling Here the work moves from insight into identity. This lesson teaches how to consciously choose the character you want to embody, not by imitation of surface behaviours, but by modelling internal beliefs, values, and strategies. You will learn how to align cognition, emotion, and nervous system state so change is lived rather than performed. This is also where you will get to map put your strategies.
The Grounded in Uncertainty Method Mapping Triggers and Selecting New Strategies This final lesson brings everything together into a practical method. Adding in a mix of poly-vagal theory and neuroception understanding. You will learn how to map your personal triggers, identify the internal conditions that activate old strategies, and select new strategies that are congruent with your values and capacity. Rather than forcing change, the method ensures new responses become automatic because the system no longer requires the old ones to feel safe.
Inside the Re-Wiring Sessions
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The Ground in Uncertainty - Re-wire Your Triggers programme is carried out online via zoom once a week for a period of eight weeks.
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You will receive a list of dates and start times once Dates are confirmed.
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Upon enrolment you will receive the Grounded in Uncertainty PDF Book written by yours truly, as well as exercise sheets that will help you map out your Values, Beliefs and Strategies, including your triggers.
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You can read the PDF book before or as we do the lessons the choice is up to you. I find that reading will give you the comprehension and being present in the lessons will bring you clarity to what you have learnt from the book.
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You will be accessing past memories and mapping Heightened Emotional experiences and events which can be overwhelming at times, If you need to take a minute to process during the class it's ok. Just come back when you are ready.
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You will be learning NLP techniques through-out the duration of the programme and will at times be paired up with other participants, Don't worry, it's so much fun to learn these new techniques and really re-wire how we have experienced our past and the meanings we have tied to them.
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"This is Going to be EPIC"
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Once you learn and understand how you got to where you are in life and relationships, mapping your values, beliefs and strategies of the past, as-well as understanding how the nervous system and internal state has more of an effect which values, beliefs and strategies are actioned. You get to choose the New Character you wish to embody through modelling.
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A whole New Strategies list gets to be created to bring you the result in your relationships and life that you truly desire. While your nervous system learns that something NEW is SAFE.
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You will have access to the members community, where you can ask questions of other participants and reflect on the class material should you wish. Talking through what you studied, I have found helps us process and ingrain what we have learnt.
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The goal is to re-wire our nervous system and re-tire old strategies that kept us safe in the past but when they respond the same to current triggers, they unintentionally sabotage new relationships.
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I have been here at the start before, failed many times. And I'm here now to lead you through this.
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I want you to remember this is also such an immersive programme and so enlightening and freeing, I encourage you to laugh, It doesn't have to be always serious, come as you are.
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As the programme unfolds, you may hear some of my favourite saying:
"Sounds like a them problem" - Translation - Not your problem, focus on yourself, let them sort out their own shit.
"FucK that" - Translation - Fuck that.
"Just start, thats all you need to do" - Translation - You are avoiding taking action and I'm tired of your excuses. P.s I love you.
Each programme runs on the same structure however, No programme is exactly the same and does take some detours to get to the desired goal at the end. which is: You finding yourself, and retiring the behaviours that used to jump at triggers. To create the relationship that serves the connection and yourself. To feel safe, secure and grounded. Ultimately you always wanted this. You just didn't realise that your subconscious was keeping you safe by your brain predicting what could happen, not always leading to where you want to go.
“We must let go of the life we have planned, so as to accept the one that is waiting for us.”
Joseph Campbell
I want you to wake the fuck up to yourself again, to feel love, and trust that you can be exactly you knowing that some one will always be their to catch you if you may fall. I'm tired of the culture that tells us we must go it alone. We can. But it's an isolated life, which emptiness is cold and constricting. that feeling that someone has you no matter what, that is powerful beyond what we can put into words, its a knowing and trust that lights up the soul.
Pricing and Payment plans
I understand this is the part where you want to know about what your investment will cost. But if it's not a Hell Yeh! then wait until it is.
This programme is in-depth and it will ask an emotional depth of you that you haven't accessed yet.
It will also change your life and have you questioning how.
First 50 Sign-ups who become a member on Skool will get access to the self paced Grounded in Uncertainty re-wire your triggers Programme for free.
50% of second marriages fail. When you map your triggers and understand your subconscious patterns and implement new strategies you change the statistics.
If you are ready to take action. If you are ready for the inner work, then you are ready. If you are still thinking whether you should or you shouldn't then you are not ready. Your intention is what matters most. The Grounded in Uncertainty programme gives you the knowledge and tools to re-wire the unserving strategies that fire when triggered. The programmes and modules ask you to look inward at a depth most dont realise is needed for change and so continue their life just the same as It was the day before, the month before, the year before, same patterns, same strategies, same outcomes in relationships and life.
This is an investment that asks of you to work for your change, No-one is coming to do the work for you.
Only you can decide when you want to change
If you are in, if your intention aligns with your action's then I am so pumped to have you join and I am genuinely excited to watch you grow throughout the programme and hear days, to months later how your life has changed for the better.
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"Many see profit as the external return from investment. Very few understand that taking action on intention is where return begins".
Andrew Jaensch
This isn't just a course or programme to find yourself like a Bali cold plunge camp. Its isn't boys dancing in the sand or climbing trees in Thailand like all these find your inner child retreats. It's choosing the character that you want to play moving forward. If it was only about finding ourselves, and keeping the same character than that result's in just feeling better about our actions, behaviours and current strategies, while enduring up in the same place we were before. That sounds more like avoidance to me.
You're here because you want real change.
I know you do because you have read this far on a long scripted title page. It means you are looking for answers. Its means you are already driven to act. And I know you will fit in here because of that. Each time we dare to look at the parts of us that scare, each time to greet the vulnerable and let it be seen we understand a little bit more about ourself.
If you don’t understand the problem deeply, any solution is accidental.
The Toyota Way
The Toyota method of problem-solving mirrors the Grounded in Uncertainty approach in one essential way: it does not rush to fix behaviour, it stabilises understanding first. Toyota begins by going to the source of the problem and observing reality as it is, rather than reacting to assumptions, blame, or urgency. The problem is then clearly stated and broken down, not to judge it, but to reduce overwhelm and restore clarity. Only once the root cause is understood does Toyota introduce countermeasures, small and testable responses designed to prevent recurrence rather than force change. This process allows uncertainty to be tolerated long enough for insight to emerge, curiosity to replace reaction, and effective action to follow naturally.
In this instance the problem is a strategy that was created to keep us safe. That no longer serves us. Change becomes stable because it addresses the conditions that made the strategy necessary in the first place, rather than demanding willpower or control in the face of chaos.
When we discover the origin strategy behind the trigger behaviour, we start to unravel the subconscious values and beliefs that drive the behaviour.
I am not only glad you are here reading this with me now but I am greatly hoping to lead you through what took me years to understand so you can gain change in weeks.
My name is Andrew Jaensch and I am so pleased that you are here and cannot wait to meet you in the programme.